I have been on this spinning, big blue orb for 55 years now — time enough to have learned a few things. I consider myself a pretty smart guy. However, I am constantly amazed at how stupid I was two years ago and the cycle repeats. Yet, every once in a while, I hear or read something that takes me aback and I simply must write it down. 

Here it is: “You must learn to place less value on all that you can remember and more on those few things that you must never forget.” Marcus Buckingham wrote that in his 2005 book “The One Thing You Need to Know” (About Great Managing, Great Leading and Sustained Individual Success). 

In my first 30 years, I have had a lot of horrible bosses and a few really great ones. The very best managers stand out. They get talked about. We all know who they are. We might not agree with what they say or do or understand why they do what they do, but we like how they make us feel. I have the extreme honor of being hired by some really great managers and leaders. I pay attention. I watch what they do and say. I listen to the language they use with others and themselves. I write it all down.

Do you remember the Billy Crystal movie “City Slickers?” Jack Palance’s pitch perfect character Curly is the grizzled stone faced loner and ranch trail boss — a real cowboy. He steals every scene he is in. Billy’s character is a clueless city slicker, trying to build rapport and engage Curly in conversation, without much luck. 

Finally, Curly tells Billy, “The secret of (success) in life is just one thing.”

Curious, Billy replies, “What is that?”

Smiling as he rolls another cigarette, he says, “That’s your job. To find out what that one thing is.”

Mine is writing and speaking. It took me 32 years to figure it out. U2 singer Bono laments in their 1983 LP, “I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For.” Most people haven’t either.

What’s a manager?

A manager is not the same thing as a leader. Managers manage people.  It’s one to one. A manager grows people. He inspires change, coaches up, teaches specific skills, encourages people to take risks and stretch comfort zones. He brings out the best in people. He truly cares about the people he serves. It really is true — you can have everything you want in life if you only help enough other people get what they want or need, first.

Here is my list of 10 Disciplines, 10 Principles, 10 Commandments to master. They represent the things we must never forget if you are a manager. It might not be a complete list, but it’s a great start. Think of them as 10 goals to master over the next five years. 

1. Fall in love with your work (organization and industry). 

Great managers love their job. They are proud of the company they work for. They are hardworking and loyal. They take 100 percent responsibility for their actions and decisions. They are at once coaches, teachers, servant leaders who teach by able example. They smile a lot. They seem to genuinely love what they do and wouldn’t dream of doing anything else.  Their attitude is contagious. They talk about their work away from the job.  They love talking to other managers in their industry and are always looking for and finding new and better ways of getting things done. If you do what you love, you’ll never work another day in your life.

2. Become a lifelong student

Great managers read books and trade magazines (the books you don’t read won’t help), they attend every seminar they can, they are sponges for any information that will help them reach their goals. They pick the brains of other people who are more successful. They find mentors. They keep a journal, capturing lessons and ideas, borrowing boldly from the best. They practice the “Hour of Power:” 20 minutes of reading, 20 minutes of planning and 20 minutes rhinking and affirming their goals every morning (or evening) without fail.

3. Get great at sales (and marketing)

Everyone is in sales. The only question is, “How good are you at it?”

Sales is both a science and an art. The science is the math. What is your close ratio? How many deals do you close out of 10? 10 percent? 20 percent? 50 percent? You need to know. It’s how you track your progress and skill. You are either green and growing or ripe and rotting. There is no neutral in business. The art is the people side of the equation. We make buying decisions based on emotion and justify with logic. Sales is like a chair with four legs: trust, relationships, competence and timing. 

People buy from people they like, trust and believe. How good are you at asking great open ended questions and actively listening? As a manager, you are selling all day long. You sell internal customers (associates) on the company values, ideology and vision. You sell external customers giving you the chance to demonstrate your competency. We are all in sales. How good are you at it? 

4. Know thyself (and others)

What is the best and highest use of your time and talent? One the secrets of successful managers is they know and understand their gifts and strengths. At the same time, they are brutally honest about their shortcomings and weaknesses. They delegate those weaknesses and invest most of their time on the things they are good at. They solicit feedback from technology (MMPI, DISC, Personality Profiles, etc.), the people they serve and the people they report to. They are flexible, willing and able to change. They are change masters. They have thick skin and cold blood. They welcome feedback, both positive and negative. They are serious about improving and pay the price in advance. 

5. Set big, audacious goals (and lots of little ones too!)

From big goals like “Increase sales by 30 percent this year while maintaining Gross Profit of 40 percent” to having crystal clear expectations about what they expect from each job and employee, create clear job descriptions and walk through each bullet point with each associate.

“What do you get paid to do?” is a vital question! If you ask a receptionist she might say “I get paid to answer the phone.”

“No,” you say in a kind soft tone, “You get paid to solve clients problems by telephone and do whatever it takes to delight them.”

Focus on what you want and why!  Leave the how up to them. First we work on goals then they work on us. Be absolutely clear on your expectations of yourself and others. Peter Drucker said, “What is your contribution to the organization?”

6. Track and measure everything

As a sales manager, your goals need to be made clear by publicly posting both the goals and activity (month by month, in a public place, everyone needs to know: “Mark Matteson sold $75,000 and is 300 percent of sales plan!”). How many service agreements were sold? Projects? How many did you lose last year (the term is “churn,” the percent of clients that left measured against the total. Less than 5 percent is great, more than 10 percent is bad!). Where performance is measured, performance improves.  What are you measuring? 

7. Reward behavior you want repeated (the window and the mirror)

Whatever gets rewarded gets repeated. Whatever gets punished stops.  That is the greatest management principle in the world. What do you want to see more of? Less of? Praise pays. High fives in the hallway, ringing of the bell, awards, trophies, plaques and cold hard cash given in public settings (annual meetings, monthly meetings) matter. You are making a statement. Sales Star of the Month with movie coupons, dinner credit cards, time off paid; get creative and make the acknowledgment public. 

Remember the Window and the Mirror. When it comes time to take credit for the success, look out the window and give it away, to your team! When it comes time to asses blame, look in the mirror and assume full responsibility. What gets rewarded gets repeated. 

8. Hire hard, train easy

This discipline is easier said than done. What is your percentage of interviews to hires?  Is it 2 to 1; 5 to 1; 10 to 1; or 20 to 1? The larger the first number, the lower the turnover and higher the productivity. Great managers understand and accept this, poor managers are lazy with this commandment. Who do you let on the bus? Are they in the right seat on the bus? This is huge when building your team. 

My friend Chuck was a master at this. He was great at developing relationships with the right people. He was patient, persistent and relentless in pursuing and hiring great people. He built a $25 million dollar commercial HVAC service company from $800,000 in 1980 in 20 years. He trained liked crazy. He told the CEO one day in front of me, when the CEO was lamenting over the overall cost of training new people, “There is only one thing worse than training someone and then having them leave; that is if you don’t train them and they stay!” Hire up. Hire young Turks who want your job. Talent deprecation is hiring down. They in turn hire down and that person is serving your customer. If you are a 6, hire an 8, and they will hire 10’s! 

9. Become a good-finder

Are you a good-finder or a fault-finder? What if you got in the habit of praising people in public? The very best managers I have seen are great at acknowledgement and recognition. “Treat people as they are, they remain. Treat them as they can be, they become.” 

Catch people in the act of doing things right. This is simple, but not easy.  It’s a habit. Each of us moves toward pleasure and away from pain. My publisher used to say, “You know what I like about you? Everything!”  Research and the successful organizations around the globe have proven one thing, “Employees who are cared about, produce more, stay longer and are easier to get along with. Care more than others think is wise. Become a good-finder. Praise pays! 

10. You have a team Of people

In a bacon and egg breakfast, the chicken was involved but the pig was committed! Do you want compliance or commitment? Get your team involved in the ideation process. Break them into groups to brainstorm and ask the right questions: “How can we generated more leads from the field?”  and “What will inspire you to action (time off, cash, movie tickets)?” 

As the coach goes, so goes the team. Keep searching for new ideas. Master the previous 9-Disciplines. The answers will come. Invest in education for you and your greatest asset, your people. Education always brings a return, not once but many times over. 

Ben Franklin said, “Take a coin from your purse and put it in your head. It will come flowing from your head and overflow your purse.” Ben understood.

These are the things you must never forget ... and remember to do!

One last thing, have fun. Life is short. The best is yet to come. The secret to life is just one thing. That’s your job. Find out what that one thing is.  Thank Curly. Giddy up!

Mark  Matteson is one of the  EGIA Contractor University faculty members. EGIA Contractor University has assembled the most experienced and dynamic faculty ever put together. Faculty members have personally built some of the most successful contracting companies in America. Visit Contracting Business for more information and to learn about the Contractor Leadership Live event.

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